Men should absolutely learn how women differ from them and how to act in ways that trigger attraction and earn respect, but there’s a crucial balance point that often gets missed. When a man starts pedestalizing a woman just because she’s a woman, he slides into deference, over-investment, and behaviors he’d never extend to a guy he barely knows, which quietly screams low value and often destroys early attraction

When a man assumes a woman is higher value just because she’s a woman, he starts pedestalizing. He supplicates to women he barely knows, over-invests, and gives too much too fast. This kind of unbalanced generosity signals low value and desperation, and it often kills attraction before it has any real chance to grow.

A better frame is to treat a new woman like “one of the guys,” not a VIP by default. Don’t give her favors you’d never give a male friend. If she says something silly, tease her like you would a buddy. If she asks for a favor you don’t want to do or a one-sided financial gesture, it’s fine to decline. You’re not obligated just because she’s attractive.

Many tests would be passed if men simply remembered they don’t have to do everything a new woman wants. Once you’re in a serious, mutually invested relationship, then she becomes a preferred person in your life and earns special treatment. In return, she treats you preferentially too. That’s how you build a mutually reinforcing, reciprocal dynamic.